The other night I was having dinner in a fine argentinian restaurant in the middle of Milan chatting with some colleagues. The internationality of the group, the fine Malbec wine and good company inspired us to share our envisioning of good vacation.
One colleague admitted that he and his wife cannot find a suitable vacation solution together – so basically she was getting her beach-resort-experience whilst he was looking for a comfy chair with seaview and getting drunk on fine spirits.
In retrospective I am not sure whether I reacted suitable. Actually, what is suitable in the pure presence of this devastating truth!?
The absence of purpose and vision within this very successful men’s life struck me. Don’t get me wrong – there doesn’t need to be a purpose on every step you take. But if you are living a purposeful life I suspect you might use your days off as recreation time, load yourself with power, joy and inspiration for the next episode of crazy work ahead.
In Milan, I actually also met another man. He first seemed quiet, distinguished and quite old – to be honest. But when he started to speak in the meeting, his eyes beamed, every word well chosen, addressing precisely the topic why he had attended the gathering. You could sense that he knew who he was, what he was here for and what he wanted to achieve.
He talked with purpose.
Both men had a great career, earned a lot of money – even worked in the same company. Still, the huge difference between them was obvious.
I believe, the latter man had an answer to his “why?”. He knew his purpose in life – and drawn from there his purpose for the meeting he was attending.