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The Pink Mouse – Keeping Your Soul in Consulting
Early in my career, a mentee left consulting after less than two years. She told me something that stayed with me ever since. “I feel like I have to change too much. If I stay here, I will lose myself.” I remember feeling sad when she said that. She was talented, thoughtful, and clearly capable of building a long career in consulting. At the same time, I wasn’t entirely sure what she meant. Did she mean consulting itself? Or did she mean the quiet, male-tailored behavior that – at least back then – often seemed required to reach leadership roles? I never found out. She left, and I let her…
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When Words Sound Right — But Feel Wrong
“…I’m very happy to share this.” “I’m so pleased with what we’ve achieved.” “Thank you all for your contribution.” The words are right. The tone is polite. And still — it feels off. You can sense it immediately. The faces stay neutral. No reactions in the room or virtual call. It’s not resistance. It’s distance. And in moments like this, the quiet question hangs in the air: Was this ever really meant? When leaders speak into a room, there are a few things that can go wrong. And one of the most common ones is this: we speak from ourselves instead of from the people we are speaking to. We…
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“I’m Not That Important.” Or Am I?
“I’m not that important.” I’ve heard this sentence many times from leaders. Usually said with good intentions. A wish not to appear arrogant. A desire to stay humble. And yet, every time I hear it, something feels slightly off. Because in leadership, it is never really about importance. And at the same time, it absolutely is. One of the most important distinctions we need to make as leaders is this: the difference between the person and the role. You are a person. Whole. Complex. Valuable. Independent of any title you hold. And then there is the role. Team lead. Programme lead. Managing Director. CEO. A role you stepped into —…
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Why Leadership Always Starts One-to-One
Many people associate leadership with scale. With responsibility for many. With titles, headcount, and large organisations. And yes — careers often grow in that direction. But what is often overlooked is this: you don’t learn how to lead 200 people by starting with 200 people. You learn it by leading one. If you want to lead a larger group one day, you need to be clear on how you are steering people in general. Once you have learned how to lead small groups you can start scaling – and correspondingly adjusting your style. That’s why every sustainable leadership model starts small. At some point, you will need your circle of…
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Freedom redefined
She once believed freedom meant palm trees. Warm sand. A laptop in a beach bag and the promise of working from anywhere, anytime. So she chose the travel industry — the world at her fingertips, assignments in sunlit places, pictures that looked like postcards. She moved lightly from team to team, country to country, believing this was the life she had dreamed of. But after a few months in each new role, she noticed something she hadn’t expected: the learning curve flattened. The excitement dimmed. And sometimes, the teams she joined didn’t truly work together — they only occupied the same place. Palm trees can’t fix a team that doesn’t…
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The Power of Small Things
It began on a small Danish island. Waves rolling in and out like slow breathing. Soft sand under bare feet. The kind of morning where the world feels gentle, almost quiet enough to hear your own thoughts. He knelt down, opened an empty box, and started filling it — handful by handful — with sand. Nothing rushed. Nothing dramatic. Just a simple, almost childlike act. Someone walked by and asked, “What are you doing with that?” He looked up, smiled, and said, “Preparing for something.” At the time, no one knew he would soon speak on a stage. No one knew this small act would become the heartbeat of his…
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When Challenge Turns into Clarity
He sat back in his chair, a little tense. The group had just finished a leadership exercise, the kind that doesn’t test your skills but your skin. After a pause, he said quietly, “Whenever I talk to you, I feel so challenged.” The room went still for a moment. They had known each other for half a year — regular exchanges, deep discussions, moments of friction and reflection. She had a habit of asking questions. Not easy ones. Not rhetorical ones. Questions that cut through excuses. Questions that made you look inwards before looking out. At first, he felt exposed. Almost defensive. As if every question was an attempt to…
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When Ambition Feels Like a Liability – And why it’s not.
Lately, I found myself in a room full of young professional women. Bright, talented, ambitious. And yet… the air felt tight. The tension was almost physical—like their shoulders were carrying something invisible but heavy. As I began to share my story, the ups and downs of my own career, I noticed something subtle: the room softened. Eyes lifted. Breaths deepened. Something shifted. Later, over coffee, they told me why. Just before our session, they had sat through a career talk where someone told them, “It doesn’t matter whether you get promoted this year or next. It’ll happen eventually.” Meant to be reassuring, perhaps. But what they heard was: “Your ambition…
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Why we should still lead with encouragement — even when it feels like no one is encouraging us
There are days when I leave meetings—internal ones, client ones, even 1:1s with people I deeply respect—and I feel… invisible. No “thank you.” No “great point.” No eye contact, even. Just a blur of agendas, deadlines, decisions. And me, sitting there, wondering: Does anyone even notice how hard I’m trying? If you’ve ever been in that space, I want to tell you—you’re not alone. But here’s what I’ve learned after years of consulting, coaching, and navigating boardrooms and back-to-back calls: We all want to be seen. And ironically, we’re all waiting for someone else to go first. The Silent Frustration It’s deeply human to crave acknowledgment. A simple “thank you”…
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Why Leadership Can Feel Isolating (and How to Stay Connected)
Suddenly, I was no longer one of the team. I was leading it. There was a beautiful pride in that moment—but also a quiet void. Meetings changed. Conversations shifted. People started looking to me for answers, but I still had so many questions. And somehow, it felt like I had to figure it all out… alone. If you’ve ever stepped into a leadership role and thought, “Why does no one talk about how lonely this is?”—you’re not alone in that thought either. We often assume that once we’ve “made it” into leadership, everything clicks into place. Especially when we’re surrounded by more experienced leaders who seem calm, composed, and confident.…



























